Can Your Relationship Survive the Distance?

The transition from high school to university or college is one of the most life changing transitions you will make in your teenage years. It means leaving behind the safety of high school and the house you’ve lived in your whole life, to a place that can seem utterly horrifying. To most freshmen, university or college is lonely, scary and extremely intimidating. It is starting yourself over, on an entirely different and unfamiliar territory. For some, it’s leaving the comfort of their homes, and for others it’s leaving the comfort of their loved ones. Loved ones could mean the friends they’ve had for years, or loved ones meaning their high school sweethearts. Every high school couple fears this one situation, and that is the infamous long distance relationship (otherwise known as LDR).

Whether your significant other is older, younger or the same age as you, this is a typical struggle that occurs when high school is over. Long distance relationships are usually a compromise that must be made when your loved one has to move away due to school or work, and you can’t physically see each other except for a couple of times a month/year. Although long distance relationships are difficult and frustrating, there are ways to keep it alive, fun and most importantly…make it work.

One of the first key concepts to keep in mind if you are having a hard time dealing with a long distance relationship is to keep busy and be positive. One of the easiest but worst thing to do while being in this situation is to mope around, and be upset and negative about missing your significant other. Although it’s hard with them not being around, but being upset and constantly thinking and worrying about it will make the situation worse. Ways to keep busy can be watching movies with your room mates or a friend, and spending time with your other loved ones.

Another extremely important factor when it comes to keeping up a long distance relationship is trust. Without trust, no relationship can survive (especially a long distance one). It’s important that you trust your partner, in order to keep a happy relationship. No relationship can be strong enough if one person is always wondering whether or not your significant other is going to betray you.  Trust also eases the situation by providing you comfort in knowing that whatever your significant other is doing, he or she knows that they shouldn’t do anything to put your relationship in danger.

Another contending factor, almost as important as trust, is communication. Not being able to see someone face to face makes keeping up a relationship extremely challenging.  Miscommunication becomes another obstacle you have to overcome, as it is a result of only communicating through what you physically can (which is typically social media). It’s always important to convey to each other how you are feeling about things, so it leaves room for improvement in the relationship. Lack of communication can lead to misunderstandings in the relationship, which creates an unhealthy situation. Communication is essentially the base of building trust in a relationship, and helps make your bond stronger. It’s important to be open when communicating with your partner, because it creates a sense of comfort between the two of you. Good communication is one of the biggest things to work on in a relationship, because bad communication typically results in a fall out and argument. Communication improves the bond you have together, as well as helps fix issues and strengthens the both of you.

Although relationships long distance can be a very difficult thing, there are things you can do to make your relationship enjoyable. There are ways to keep your relationship alive and interesting, even if you cant always be together as much as you would like to.

One of the many things you can do is to make a surprise visit to your partner. Aside from trying to arrange days of the month that work for you both, as a day to see each other; it is possible to make your relationship fun and give your partner a surprise visit that they wouldn’t necessarily see coming. This gives you more time to spend with your loved one, as well as adding some fun to a not-so-fun situation.

Thanks to our growing technology, other ways to keep in touch is through the amazing thing we call social media. This goes as far as Twitter, Facebook, text and Skype/ face time. Skype allows you to visually see each other, which helps improve your bond with each other and help keeps you close through this rough time. Facebook comes in handy when it comes to the need to share pictures, videos and even messages with one another. It helps your significant other see how your day is going, and what your plans are (in the non creepy way), and you are able to keep tabs on them too. Twitter has almost the same purpose, where it becomes simple to share thoughts and plans for the day with one another, as well as allowing you to chat with one each other. Texting is the biggest thing, where it becomes extremely easy to talk to one another, as if you are constantly talking on the phone or as if the person is actually with you. It helps keep in touch, and strengthens the bond of you two while apart.

Long distance relationships are a truly difficult thing that takes effort, time, strength, trust and patience. They have many negatives, but there are many positives as well, which is increasing the strength of your relationship with each other. The biggest thing to remember is that if you didn’t think your relationship was worth it, you wouldn’t stress and go through an LDR. It’s important to keep a positive mind, and to never give up. Although it seems close too impossible, making a long distance relationship is possible. If you keep these things in mind while your loved one is away, it’ll help you get through it. These tips can help you stay connected and help your relationship survive the distance.

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Target Launches “Ava And Viv”

MTI3NjAwNjE3OTE1OTgwMjU0Recently, in the past week, Target has announced that they will be launching their new “plus size” clothes by the “Ava and Viv Line”. On Today.com, it has been stated that this has been a working project for the past year, and it is the first time Target has released something unique and different like this clothing line. As a store that currently only offers sizes up to 18, it is changing its outlook on body image and perception for this particular line. Ava and Viv will be offering sizes up to 26 and 4X, which is a new concept for Target.

For the longest time, society has shaped us to believe that “skinny” is the only type of girl that is allowed to be creative, have fun, and be in love with fashion. With this new line, as well as a new coming of age theory, it has been established that “skinny” is no longer the only type of perfect body image. As a society, we are realizing that every single body type is its own unique and beautiful physique, and this clothing line makes it evident. When a spokes person of the company, Joshua Thomas, spoke to today.com he stated that “This line is developed specifically for a woman who loves fashion and who happens to be plus size, It not only takes into consideration wardrobe basics, trend pieces [and] everything you need to build your foundational and statement pieces, but we’ve taken our focus on fit to borderline obsession because we know that’s critically important to the plus-size guest.”Targets-New-Plus-Size-Label-AVA-VIV-Spring-Look-Book-8

Many are pleased with the news of this launch, and are excited to see how successful this line will be. Keep an eye out for this unique fashion clothing line to come out, as it is expected to hit stores mid-February.

Urban Outfitters Controversy (Yes, Another One)

Not failing to leave its mark in the fashion industry, Urban Outfitters has created nothing but buzz and received constant attention. Operating in several countries, such as Canada, The United Kingdom, and France, it is an industry that caters to teens and young adults. Urban Outfitters tends to create a buzz, and for many cases the news that spreads is not positive towards the company. Although it is a unique store, with a special shopping experience and a popular “hipster” style, the company has faced many controversies one too many times.

On January 5th 2015, People Magazine released information on a certain picture that Urban Outfitters was demanded to take off of their online website. The United Kingdom’s Advertising Standards Authority ordered for them to take down a picture of a model wearing lingerie, advertising the “thigh gap”. The “thigh gap” has been a term promoted among teens, especially teen girls, in which one must have a certain amount of space between their thighsshops_urbanoutfitters to be classified as “skinny”. They United Kingdom’s Advertising Standards Authority claimed,“We considered that the model was very thin, and noted, in particular, that there was a significant gap between the model’s thighs, and that her thighs and knees were a similar width,” according to Time. It was the ASA (people who create guidelines that U.K brands must follow for ads and imaging), who believed that the model looked too skinny and didn’t meet the guidelines of a healthy model. Urban Outfitters retracted the complaint saying, “The model was represented by one of the UK’s most successful and well-respected agencies. We do not believe she was underweight.” Many found this to be controversial, especially due to the company having a very delicate clientele of teenage girls, who may potentially be at risk for struggling with a growing body image.

This has not been the only eyebrow raiser that Urban Outfitters has created, there have been many incidents in the past couple of years that have made many people reconsider putting their money into this company. Another argumentative product along the lines of body image was when they released a t-shirt that said “eat less” displayed on an appealingly underweight model. Although the message according to Urban Outfitters is not relating to any type of eating disorder, they claim that “Eat less or more or however much you’d like in this seriously soft knit tee cut long and topped with a v-neck” (According to alternet.org). So although it was not intending to be about literally eating less, many customers felt that it was still and influence to eating disorders. They believed that it would create negativity among teens and promote anorexia.

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“Eat Less” Shirt By Urban Outfitters

Although it is a very popular and well-known store, Urban Outfitters has created many products that have caused disbelief and controversy to several people. According to alternet.org, the company is aware of their faults, and has released many apologies saying “this truth does not excuse us from our failure to identify potential controversial products head on. We, as a company who caters to a college-age demographic, have a responsibility to uphold to our customers. Given our history of controversial issues, we understand how our sincerity may be questioned.”

The products that stores release and display hold great importance in reflecting the company and the ethics they hold. It is important to be aware of the stores you shop at, as well as the reputation they have before you invest into their products. How many more chances will Urban Outfitters get before they are labelled a bad name in the fashion industry?

Christmas Countdown: 10 movies to get you in your holiday spirit!

Today marks November 25th 2014, which just so happens to be the date that is exactly one month away from Christmas! This one month away mark makes it okay to officially go crazy and decorate for Christmas (but lets be real… we love Christmas 365 days a year). To get you in the holiday mood, as if the malls and TV commercials weren’t doing a good enough job, we have designed this fabulous countdown to get you Christmas READY.

And you’re probably thinking, what better way to start this Christmas countdown? Well my friend, I think giving you 10 christmas movies of all time (..based on reviews at least), is a kick ass way to start it! So grab some popcorn, grab some couch, grab a friend (or yourself), and get comfortable because you are in for some relaxing holiday fun.

1. ELF
2. Love Actually
3. A Christmas Story
4. A Christmas Carol
5. Miracle on 34th Street
6. Santa Clause (1-3)
7. Home Alone (all of them !!!)
8. A Charlie Brown Christmas
9. National Lampoons Christmas Vacation
10. The Nightmare Before Christmas

Check out Netflix or online for a billion more movie options, but these are all crowd pleasers. We hope you enjoy this kick off to your countdown, and stay tuned for more Christmas themed fun! xoxo

OOTD: Fall Casual

For todays outfit of the day…

Fall is known for being one of those seasons where it can be so difficult and confusing when you’re trying to figure out what to wear. Its either too hot, or too cold.. sometimes it feels like there is no in-between. For these types of days, what I typically do is pair a t-shirt with a thick cardigan, so it becomes easy to take off layers. (Fall is the season for layering!!)

For my casual day, I paired my long thick brown cardigan from Urban Behaviour with a cropped t-shirt and some jeans from Zara. i love the colour burgundy and think it is perfect for any fall day. it was a bit chilly so i added a burgundy scarf with some detailing, a silver watch, and paired it with brown riding boots. I wrapped up this fall look with seasonal scent “Country Chic”.

Jeans - Zara Tshirt- Forever 21 http://www.forever21.com/shop/ca/en/women-tops# Cardigan- Urban behaviour

Jeans – Zara
Tshirt- Forever 21 http://www.forever21.com/shop/ca/en/women-tops#
Cardigan- Urban behaviour, ESQ by MOVADO- Watch, Country Chic- Bath and Body Works

Summer Candles Step Aside, It’s Time For Fall Scents

Candles are decor essentials that stick around no matter what season it is. This fall season calls for the clearing out of summer scents, and bringing in the old and new fall candles. 

Last week, Melissa and I adventured out to the candle experts, Bath and Body Works, to get the latest scoop on the most popular fall candle this season, as well as picking out a few of our favourites to try and review. According to a Bath and Body Works employee, one of the most popular scents for fall is the “Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin” scent. “Actually, all year round the most popular candle scent has been Japanese Cherry Blossom”, and has been for 25 years” She added in after she told us falls scent. (So if you’re ever unsure of a smell to chose from, check out the Japanese Cherry Blossom- it will not disappoint!)

After checking out Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin (which smelt delicious), we picked up some scents, both old and new, that we couldn’t help but grab. Tailgate, is one of the perfect scents if you’re into the woods-ie, musky scents- it literally smells like a high school football game. Perfect for putting you into the homecoming/fall mood. Sea Salt & Maple Popcorn is ideal for any area of the house for this season, with a mixture of sweet and salty (it smells delicious!) Mahogany Teakwood is a personal all time fave of mine, and so it is one of my seasonal essentials. I didn’t pick up White Water Birch or Mahogany Teakwood on our endeavour to B&B that occurred recently, but i figured I would toss them into one of the many great fall scents. Marshmallow Fireside is another one that i previously purchased, but it is currently being sold during this season, and it smells like a bonfire (and who doesn’t love the smell of roasting marshmallows?!) it is not only great for fall, but great for winter as well. And lastly, but certainly not the last of the fabulous fall scents B&B has to offer, is Spiced Apple Toddy, for the perfect sweet and spicy smell that can be ideal for either fall or winter.

The 3 wick candles are the largest candles that can be purchased at B&B Canada, and their regular retail sale is $22.50 CAN each, The mason jar candles retail for $12.50 CAN each, whereas the small candles retail for $10.00 CAN typically. If you aren’t the type to be committed to a candle, try out the mini candles, which are ideal for sampling scents. They retail for about $4.50CAN.

Bath and Body Works is notorious for they’re fabulous deals, they always have something new going on, between promos, gifts after purchase and coupons. Be sure to check out the Bath and Body Works nearest to you, or check out their website to find out when the latest deals are hitting your location.

All of these candles were purchased from bath and body works canada.http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/home/index.jsp

All of these candles were purchased from bath and body works canada.http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/home/index.jsp

PLAID is the new BLACk (yes, it came back)

As stated in the “New York Fall 2014 Runway Report” By harpersbazaar.com, it has been stated that everyone is loving the fall trend for plaid, and it is one of the top patterns that everyone will be seen in this fall.

Whether its playing it up with some riding boots, or your favourite pair of jeans; plaid is a fall 2014 essential. It can be easily layered for those nippy days, and worn alone for the warm days. It is something that you can easily wear as a flannel, or even simply having a classic plaid skirt. You can wear it over top your cutest shirt, or around your waist to achieve your inner rocker chic style. simple essential brings so much colour into your outfit, its impossible not to want to jump on this trend.

I know what majority of you are thinking ( no, plaid is not just a country girl thing)! If you aren’t into to the whole “country” look, you could try going for a skirt with plaid or even a chiffon top with a plaid pattern. Or, spice it up a bit and do a solid outfit with a plaid scarf. The options are endless, with whatever style your taste suits.

The best part is (are you ready for it?) plaid is basically all around the malls during this season, everyone has gone plaid crazy. This means that it is possible to get these styles at some of the lowest prices. Check back at our blog to see what stores are selling this hot trend, and for what prices that meet your match.

plaid skirt from forever 21, black crop top from garage, knew high socks from forever 21, brown boots from aldo

plaid skirt from forever 21, black crop top from garage, knew high socks from forever 21, brown boots from aldo

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plaid flannel from bluenotes, jeans from american eagle, boots from timberland